It's been almost half a year since my last post. So many things have happened within a short span of 6 months and I have learnt a lot.
Well, I am not 28 yet (nearly there, but not yet). Just had a compelling feeling to pen down my thoughts to remember this magic number. After our mid-twenties, time just seems to fly. Just in between my mid-twenties and the next big 30, this is the age where people come to a crossroads. Talk about quarter-life crisis. Choose between focusing on your career or settling down and starting a family. Of course, some say you can have the best of both worlds. But really, how many of us can really have our cake and eat it at the same time?
My career definitely isn't at its peak yet and I am still trying my best to work hard. I am aware of how difficult I can be at work and I am trying to improve on that. With lesser things on my plate, it gives me more time to do self-reflection and rethink my future plans. Speaking of plans and age, we all grow wiser with time and learn to let go of negative things with a more mature mindset. When things don't go according to plan, I learnt to go with the flow and make the best out of what I have. Keeping a positive mindset in whatever I do is something that I have been making a conscious effort to achieve.
When I was 25, I was hot-headed and always raring to go. Fast forward three years later, so much has changed and I think the 25-year-old me would be proud of myself today. Time really mellowed me. Still rash at times, but I think I have better self-control today. With more discipline and determination, I have taken the longer route to realize that we all have flaws and that we should always try to be a better person.
At the age of 28, I have realized that people won't change. It's a fact. At least not when they themselves are convinced that they are perfectly fine the way they are. Sure, we can be fine. But why stop at fine? Why not push yourself to be someone better? I am trying to push myself to be a better person, constantly reminding myself to be less harsh towards others. Hopefully, I will become a better person in time to come.
It's all about expectations and acceptance. When you don't have any expectations of someone, you accept him/her as he/she is, without any complaints. But when you start having expectations, that's where the problems surface. You pick on their faults (it might not even be a fault, it's just not conforming with your inner norms) and you start getting upset with them. At the end of the day, expectations are what make people unhappy. So I learnt not to have any. And I end up being happier :)
As we approach the big three-o, we will set goals for ourselves and work hard towards it. I haven't set any, except perhaps to give it my best shot in whatever I do and try to be a better person everyday. Hopefully, I will be a nicer person at 30 than I am today.
At 28, we have gained some working experience to know how to interact with one another without losing our true self. We are still bubbling with the energy of a twenties-year-old but yet wiser than most of them. So why not make the best out of our age?
Turning 28 means no more nonsense and no more wasting time on non-value added activities. That means to spend time with people who truly matter to you, to spend time doing things that you truly enjoy and to work hard towards your goals. Turning 28 means taking time to reflect what have we not done well in the past and then try to work harder in the future because there's no better time than now. Before we get caught under the daily grind of life, seize this time to think through what could we have done better and try not to repeat the same mistakes.
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What turning 28 means… (to me, at least)
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
It's been almost half a year since my last post. So many things have happened within a short span of 6 months and I have learnt a lot.
Well, I am not 28 yet (nearly there, but not yet). Just had a compelling feeling to pen down my thoughts to remember this magic number. After our mid-twenties, time just seems to fly. Just in between my mid-twenties and the next big 30, this is the age where people come to a crossroads. Talk about quarter-life crisis. Choose between focusing on your career or settling down and starting a family. Of course, some say you can have the best of both worlds. But really, how many of us can really have our cake and eat it at the same time?
My career definitely isn't at its peak yet and I am still trying my best to work hard. I am aware of how difficult I can be at work and I am trying to improve on that. With lesser things on my plate, it gives me more time to do self-reflection and rethink my future plans. Speaking of plans and age, we all grow wiser with time and learn to let go of negative things with a more mature mindset. When things don't go according to plan, I learnt to go with the flow and make the best out of what I have. Keeping a positive mindset in whatever I do is something that I have been making a conscious effort to achieve.
When I was 25, I was hot-headed and always raring to go. Fast forward three years later, so much has changed and I think the 25-year-old me would be proud of myself today. Time really mellowed me. Still rash at times, but I think I have better self-control today. With more discipline and determination, I have taken the longer route to realize that we all have flaws and that we should always try to be a better person.
At the age of 28, I have realized that people won't change. It's a fact. At least not when they themselves are convinced that they are perfectly fine the way they are. Sure, we can be fine. But why stop at fine? Why not push yourself to be someone better? I am trying to push myself to be a better person, constantly reminding myself to be less harsh towards others. Hopefully, I will become a better person in time to come.
It's all about expectations and acceptance. When you don't have any expectations of someone, you accept him/her as he/she is, without any complaints. But when you start having expectations, that's where the problems surface. You pick on their faults (it might not even be a fault, it's just not conforming with your inner norms) and you start getting upset with them. At the end of the day, expectations are what make people unhappy. So I learnt not to have any. And I end up being happier :)
As we approach the big three-o, we will set goals for ourselves and work hard towards it. I haven't set any, except perhaps to give it my best shot in whatever I do and try to be a better person everyday. Hopefully, I will be a nicer person at 30 than I am today.
At 28, we have gained some working experience to know how to interact with one another without losing our true self. We are still bubbling with the energy of a twenties-year-old but yet wiser than most of them. So why not make the best out of our age?
Turning 28 means no more nonsense and no more wasting time on non-value added activities. That means to spend time with people who truly matter to you, to spend time doing things that you truly enjoy and to work hard towards your goals. Turning 28 means taking time to reflect what have we not done well in the past and then try to work harder in the future because there's no better time than now. Before we get caught under the daily grind of life, seize this time to think through what could we have done better and try not to repeat the same mistakes.
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It's been almost half a year since my last post. So many things have happened within a short span of 6 months and I have learnt a lot.
Well, I am not 28 yet (nearly there, but not yet). Just had a compelling feeling to pen down my thoughts to remember this magic number. After our mid-twenties, time just seems to fly. Just in between my mid-twenties and the next big 30, this is the age where people come to a crossroads. Talk about quarter-life crisis. Choose between focusing on your career or settling down and starting a family. Of course, some say you can have the best of both worlds. But really, how many of us can really have our cake and eat it at the same time?
My career definitely isn't at its peak yet and I am still trying my best to work hard. I am aware of how difficult I can be at work and I am trying to improve on that. With lesser things on my plate, it gives me more time to do self-reflection and rethink my future plans. Speaking of plans and age, we all grow wiser with time and learn to let go of negative things with a more mature mindset. When things don't go according to plan, I learnt to go with the flow and make the best out of what I have. Keeping a positive mindset in whatever I do is something that I have been making a conscious effort to achieve.
When I was 25, I was hot-headed and always raring to go. Fast forward three years later, so much has changed and I think the 25-year-old me would be proud of myself today. Time really mellowed me. Still rash at times, but I think I have better self-control today. With more discipline and determination, I have taken the longer route to realize that we all have flaws and that we should always try to be a better person.
At the age of 28, I have realized that people won't change. It's a fact. At least not when they themselves are convinced that they are perfectly fine the way they are. Sure, we can be fine. But why stop at fine? Why not push yourself to be someone better? I am trying to push myself to be a better person, constantly reminding myself to be less harsh towards others. Hopefully, I will become a better person in time to come.
It's all about expectations and acceptance. When you don't have any expectations of someone, you accept him/her as he/she is, without any complaints. But when you start having expectations, that's where the problems surface. You pick on their faults (it might not even be a fault, it's just not conforming with your inner norms) and you start getting upset with them. At the end of the day, expectations are what make people unhappy. So I learnt not to have any. And I end up being happier :)
As we approach the big three-o, we will set goals for ourselves and work hard towards it. I haven't set any, except perhaps to give it my best shot in whatever I do and try to be a better person everyday. Hopefully, I will be a nicer person at 30 than I am today.
At 28, we have gained some working experience to know how to interact with one another without losing our true self. We are still bubbling with the energy of a twenties-year-old but yet wiser than most of them. So why not make the best out of our age?
Turning 28 means no more nonsense and no more wasting time on non-value added activities. That means to spend time with people who truly matter to you, to spend time doing things that you truly enjoy and to work hard towards your goals. Turning 28 means taking time to reflect what have we not done well in the past and then try to work harder in the future because there's no better time than now. Before we get caught under the daily grind of life, seize this time to think through what could we have done better and try not to repeat the same mistakes.
What turning 28 means… (to me, at least)
What turning 28 means… (to me, at least)